Embrace Imperfection And Be Kind To Yourself

Writer and entrepreneur, Sabrina Greer, launched her company You’ve Got This Mama, to dispel the myth of motherhood perfection and create a safe space for mothers to share and support one another on their different journeys. Through co-authored books, a podcast and the blog, You’ve Got This Mama is working to remove shame, guilt and judgment from motherhood.

You have a background in philanthropy, psychology, and modeling. What inspired you to start your book series and blog, You’ve Got This, Mama?

I was the little girl that, when all of the kids in kindergarten wanted to be astronauts and fire-fighters, I wanted to be an author. It was as though writing was always a part of me, and my truest form of expression. My modeling career started almost by accident when I was a young teenager. I shot some photos for a friend’s business and next thing you know I was scouted by an agency, living abroad in Taipei, Tokyo, Milan, Cape Town, all over the world, shooting massive campaigns and magazine covers. Modeling gave me so much mental content, a way to tame my ferocious travel bug, experience things not many sixteen-year-olds get to and document the entire process. I journaled my memoirs (stay tuned for that book) but found completing a viable manuscript incredibly challenging. Life gets in the way, you know? It wasn’t until I had children and the Universe dropped my publisher in my path that, my priorities shifted and I was reunited with my craft. I started my first blog, Mom Of Boys and realized I had a knack for authentically writing about motherhood. My publisher introduced me to the coauthoring model when I wrote a chapter in her best-selling book Dear Limits, Get Out of My Way. Driving to my first book signing I shared my vision for You’ve Got This, Mama and nine months later myself and twenty courageous mamas were best-selling authors too.

What inspired the podcast and what do you seek to achieve with it? What has been the most rewarding and what has surprised you the most?

The podcast arose organically from a demand for more content. People were loving what we were doing with the books but logistics wouldn’t allow us to produce and publish a book every month. The podcast also gave us the opportunity to touch the non-readers of the world with the same positive, empowering, and collaborative energy the books provide. My goal with the podcast is simply to show mothers they are never alone, all it takes is a click of a button to feel like part of our tribe. I think my biggest surprise with the podcast was how much work it actually requires. Scheduling, recording, editing, planning, creating content, show-notes, it is essentially a full-time job in itself so I hired my dear friend as our producer. All totally worth it though, it is incredibly rewarding to receive testimonials that we are changing the fabric of connection in motherhood. We are a judgment-free, virtual village voiding motherhood of isolation and depression one Mama at a time. We have a 5-star rating and have had celebrity guests, who would have thought?
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My goal with the podcast is simply to show mothers they are never alone, all it takes is a click of a button to feel like part of our tribe.

The blog features content from a wide range of founding contributors and you offer writing coaching to your contributors. Why did you structure it that way and what are the benefits? What have you learned from your contributors?

The blog solely features contributors who have written in our books, it is an additional platform for them to build credibility as a published author and share more of their journey with followers and fans. One of the downsides to a co-authored book is having to condense your story into a single chapter. We offer writing coaching with our co-authored programs because many of our contributors join us with a burning desire to share their story but have never written anything before in their lives and have no clue where to begin. Our publishing house has internal professional editing, design, fulfillment, distribution, and PR teams to ensure the success of the books but you can’t expect genuine success if the content is not on point. Writing can be taught, but passion and authenticity can not. Once our authors graduate from the program they become real published authors. I have seen many of our authors go on to now write their own books, build massive businesses and coaching franchises, and I’ve also been told the process is comparable to ten years of therapy. It is a brilliant stepping stone for anyone wanting to get their foot in the door of the publishing and creative world.

Connectivity and community are used interchangeably with social media, but a lot of it paints a picture of perfection. How is your community different?

Yes I completely agree. We are almost anti-perfection at YGTMAMA. In fact, the subtitle of You’ve Got This, Mama, Too is A Mother’s Guide to Embracing Imperfection and Living an Authentic Life. That’s what we do. We share the real deal, the grey areas if you will. A lot of the book chapters are about fertility struggles, grief, identity, things that are maybe a bit taboo or just simply not talked about. Our mission is to prove to mamas that they are not alone and whatever season they are in, it gets better. Hence, You’ve Got This, Mama. Our community is built around removing shame, guilt, and judgment from the equation and realizing that while every parent and child are different, we can still be united in our motherhood journey.
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Our community is built around removing shame, guilt, and judgment from the equation and realizing that while every parent and child are different, we can still be united in our motherhood journey.

What are some of the things new moms should prioritize in an attempt to maintain their sanity?

Sincerely this answer is different for every mama. There is no blanket, Google-able secret sauce. For me, and a great number of moms I interview, one helpful task would be ingraining self-care into daily life and making it non-negotiable. Self-care does not need to be daily trips to the spa but simply doing a handful of things that are only for you, even if that means brushing your teeth and putting on socks. Happy Mama = Happy Family, you cannot pour from an empty cup. A life-changing one for me is a simple affirmation “THIS TOO SHALL PASS” the knowledge that everything is so temporary in motherhood, including the sweet stuff. Every phase, tantrum, diaper explosion, sleepless night, they pass, they fade but so do the milestones, the cuddles, the beautiful array of ‘firsts’ I always remind my coaching clients of this. The days are long but the years are short. The best gift you can give yourself and your kids is your presence.

What was the most unexpected aspect of becoming a mother for you? How did you handle it?

I thought I was over prepared for motherhood. My parents were foster parents, so growing up I had 40-something siblings. Many of them with a multitude of special needs or unique circumstances. I studied developmental psychology and early childhood education and aside from my degree, I have numerous related certifications. I have worked in classrooms, hospitals, social service offices, you name it. What side-swiped me on my journey into motherhood was the constantness of it. I am not only referring to the no breaks or vacation days or the 24-hour service but the constant worry, guilt, fear, shame. Becoming a mother has a tendency to take over 100% of your brain, indefinitely. I handled it the way I handle most things I think. I researched, I read books, I took courses, workshops, programs, and found ways to discover clarity and joy in my new chaos. Now I coach other moms to do the same and it is incredibly gratifying.
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I strongly believe what you feed your mind affects everything. It’s like watering a garden or fueling a car, what you use to nourish, matters.

What is your daily routine, and what advice do you have for women who are moms and entrepreneurs?

We are writing about this right now in You’ve Got This, Boss Mama (launching October 2019) and it has been a popular topic on the podcast as well. My personal routine changes constantly and I have learned to be flexible. I have 3 boys whose ages and interests span a decade so it is “busy” but I do my best. I try to get to the gym every day and my youngest (the only one not school-aged) still naps so I have an interesting nap-time hustle routine. As far as advice, I build entire customized coaching programs around exactly this but here are my top tips
1. You CAN do it all but please DON’T. Outsource what doesn’t excite you (childcare, laundry, accounting, social media) so you can have the energy to do what needs to get done.
2. It can wait. If you need to tend to a sick kid, the emails can wait. If you need to get through a to-do list for your biz, the laundry can wait. Be gentle and flexible with your priority list and yourself.
3. Time blocking. I have a signature 4-step planning method that has proven flawless when it comes to time management, a big piece of it is blocking time. I book everything like it’s an appointment (including social media) and set 15, 20, 30, 45-minute timers to complete specific tasks. Do not be fooled, multi-tasking is a swear word, not a bragging right.

How did your style change as a mom? How has it stayed the same? What is your daily uniform?

Even when I was modeling my ‘style’ was pretty casual. I pretty much live in yoga pants and comfy T’s. I try to get to the gym every day and if I can’t it is not unusual to catch me dropping squats or downward dog in the kitchen or the office. I am all about comfort. Plus who are we kidding, kids are messy, we are not allowed to own nice things.
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You CAN do it all but please DON’T. Outsource what doesn’t excite you (childcare, laundry, accounting, social media) so you can have the energy to do what needs to get done.

What do you do to decompress when you have a little time to yourself?

I love to read and listen to audiobooks/podcasts. I guess I chose the right line of work. I enjoy non-fiction, personal development books, and podcasts. I love to learn and fill my head with positive and inspiring things. I strongly believe what feed your mind affects everything. It’s like watering a garden or fueling a car, what you use to nourish, matters. I am also a massive lover of nature. My favorite thing is to be on a boat or dockside with a good book.

What are you currently researching?

I am always looking for better ways to serve my clients and share valuable information. Right now I am researching how to create online courses and coaching programs. We are launching our first mastermind style, group coaching program for mamas this spring and I want to guarantee it is a life-changing experience for my clients.

What are you most excited to find in the bellybrief community?

More connections. I am a firm believer that we rise by lifting others, community over competition. I want to meet and connect with as many mamas as possible. I want to scream our message of love and acceptance from the rooftops and spread it like wildfire. My goal is to completely remove shame, guilt, and judgment from motherhood and we have to start with individuals. I am grateful and honored to be part of the bellybrief community.
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Becoming a mother has a tendency to take over 100% of your brain, indefinitely. I handled it the way I handle most things I think. I researched, I read books, I took courses, workshops, programs, and found ways to discover clarity and joy in my new chaos.